The Tradition of Opening a Door for a Woman
Holding a door open for a lady is a tradition worth preserving in today's modern society. Traditions give dating meaning and significance, as opposed to dating in the barren badlands of selfishness. There are two ways to muddle this etiquette. One is to ignore it altogether and the other is to over-think it and overdo it. Let's not make this awkward and weird.
Here at Single Atlanta we are all about coaching and laying out the guidelines for the menfolk. If a lady is too independent to allow this simple gesture then I'd say it is a red flag. She simply may not understand that one can be smart, independent and playful all in one day. Equality does not mean we do the exact same things for one another, nor do we need to keep score. Opening doors becomes much like a dance, and we each have our unique dance steps.
Here are some of the Door Opening guidelines for your next date:
- Requiring the woman's cooperation
Things get difficult when you and your date arrive at the door at the same time. Each sex has to fill their role at this moment. If your lady arrives at the door before you, she should step somewhat to one side so that you can open the door without bumping her. If she has a small delay or pause, simply say "allow me" and gesture with your hand.
- Don't race to the door first
You may be eager to show off your chivalry, and will rush to the doorway and stand there. Don't. It can look anxious and be awkward. Make it look natural.
- If she starts, you finish
If she arrives at the door first and starts opening the door on her own, then help pull or hold the door open further. Do not brush her hand off the door knob and don't insist. Let this round go.
- Don't expect consistency
She may open several doors throughout the evening, and then suddenly step aside indicating it is your turn. Read her body language. Remember, it's a dance.
- Double door, entry airway dilemma
When there is a door and then an entryway airlock area, and then another door here is what we do guys. Only open the first outside door allowing her to walk into airlock space and then just hold the next door for her for as she goes through. A polite and unclumsy maneuver.
- Your door duty is to her, not the public at large
Holding the door for a mob of strangers while your date is left standing in the lobby alone waiting on you is not ok. After your woman has walked through the door please follow her through. Your priority should be your date. This being said, keep your manners in check. If it's an old woman carrying bags or raining monitor and adjust. She will understand and appreciate good manners.
Some girls just don't like doors opened for them. Fair enough. Just respect it and let her open her own doors. Let's not make it a big deal. You can offer to take out the trash instead. If she is still too independent for that, go find a girl who appreciates a little chivalry.
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